"Take your pain and your weakness to your altar, and give your strength to each other." ~Yogi Bhajan
Divine Relationships Part 2
I am continuing to share insights from the book Divine Relationships by a couple Kundalini Yogis who also spent some time with Yogi Bhajan.
Keep in mind that although the focus of this book is Divine Relationships in the context of marriage, there is still much to garner for all types of relationships.
Commitment and Trust
"Without commitment there is no trust, and without trust you can not experience deep intimacy...The basics of a good relationship are openness, honesty, and the desire to give up your individuality to merge and become something new, something unique, something that has never been before. The most important thing you can bring to your relationship is commitment, your capacity to carry something to the end, unto Infinity." ~Nam Kaur & Siri Atma
Commitment and Trust are two crucial keys to a healthy, growing, and perhaps life-long relationship. This can be similar to when we find a spiritual teacher or path, in that we have to commit to and trust in a discipline in order to progress. In this, you are actually committing to yourself, to the truth of your soul. Of course there needs to be discernment that the spiritual path, or person, is a good fit...but....how many of us give up too soon because of lack of an ability to truly commit?
If Commitment is a challenge work on your Arcline, Aura, and Radiant Body. The essence of the Radiant Body is Commitment, Service, and Seeing the Divine in All. For several Kundalini practices for the Aura and Arcline, click here. And for one of my favourite Radiant Body Kriyas, click here.
Did you know? Yogi Bhajan considered marriage the highest and hardest form of Yoga. It will test the strength of your Spirit over and over again.
"Marriage is the carriage that takes you to Infinity."
"Marriage is an exalted state of consciousness where two people practice to become one divine being."
"Once a word comes out, beyond the teeth, it's an arrow which has left the bow. It cannot come back." ~Yogi Bhajan
Power of the Word
Do not under-estimate the power of the Word, which goes deeply into the psyche. And according to Kundalini Yoga, the impact of a Woman's Word has 16X the strength. Even if the Thought is not released into Word-form, the effect is still profound. By changing your projection (thought) alone, you can change the nature of your relationships. Work with the energy (i.e. light or heavy, brittle or soft, strong or weak, harsh or gentle, kind or mean) of your thoughts and your words over the next week and see how this shifts your relationships.
Timing is Key
Yogi Bhajan gave guidelines for the best times to talk to a man based on their Astrological Sign.
If he is an Earth sign (Virgo, Taurus, or Capricorn) it's best to talk to him when is on the move - walking of hiking - rather than face-to-face.
If he is a Fire sign (Leo, Sagittarius, or Aries) it's best to talk to him when he's eating.
If he is an Air sign (Gemini, Libra, and Aquarius) it's best to talk to him when he first wakes up - at first breath.
If he's a Water sign (Pisces, Cancer, or Scorpio) it's best to talk to him when he says he's happy.
As far as the best time to talk to Women, well, I guess Yogi Bhajan couldn't answer that one - smile.
"For true merger to occur you must move through the fear of exposing your innermost self."
A few suggestions for Creating Intimacy in your relationships:
Let me know if you try any of these and how it goes!! ~Dawn
Dawn Rabey, PhD
Transpersonal Psychotherapist Registered Clinical Counsellor